I am in such a better place today mentally. I feel a lot better about everything. And am starting to find myself wondering what our little one will look like. I should mention that Mr. Random is half-Asian. But his mother has blond hair and blue eyes. And my mother has green eyes. Making it remotely possible our kid will look nothing like us...and raising uncomfortable paternity questions. ;-) I'm also wondering if I'm right and it's a she, or if Mr. Random is right, and it's a he. I like being in this place. I hope to stay.
On the way home today Mr. Random was wondering out loud what to do with a daughter. Like, seriously, he feels like he has no idea. He was saying, well, with a boy I'd teach him sports and we'd go backpacking and do boy scouts....but with a girl....well, I guess I could do those things...but would she want to? And he doesn't want to turn her into a boy necessarily. He said he never thought of himself as sexist but now he's realizing he may be to some extent. It's not that he thinks girls can't do those things...it's more he doesn't want to turn his daughter into a son. Or force these things onto her. But...what does one do with a girl? Teach her to cook? I told him arts and crafts might be popular...to which he responded that that sounded like what you do with insane or mentally limited people. LOL. He's fun. :)
I'm glad that having this plan in place has let you embrace and enjoy the pregnancy more!
ReplyDeleteYou know, I was certain our son would have dark hair and brown eyes like me. But he ended up with recessive traits -- blue eyes and blonde hair. It still amazes me, almost two years after his birth! And I thought I wouldn't know what to do with a boy... but after we brought him home, I realized I didn't know what to do with a baby, period. And now I love being mama to a boy so much, I am thrilled to be having two more. You grow into it, I think. :)
haha, good point! I'm sure we'll feel the same - and not know what to do with a baby, regardless of boy vs. girl. :)
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